We are without natural affection for each other.

The phrase “without natural affection” is a biblical term that means the lack of love for family that is instinctive . It is derived from the Greek word astorgos, which appears in Romans 1:31 and 2 Timothy 3:31. The phrase is used to describe the wickedness and depravity of the pagan world. Some prophets have also related it to the violation of the Law of Chastity.

“Without natural affection” is a phrase that appears in the King James Version of the Bible, specifically in 2 Timothy 3:3-5 1. The phrase refers to the lack of affection that should naturally exist between family members, such as parents and children, husbands and wives, and siblings 2. It is used to describe people who are cruel, unloving, and lacking in empathy.

Second Timothy 3:1–9 is Paul's extensive list of godless traits, which will characterize false teachers and unbelievers. In verses 2 through 5, Paul will list nineteen separate qualities which are to be condemned. Among these are selfishness, arrogance, slander, hedonism, and denial of the truth of God. According to Paul, despite the apparent success of these false teachers, they will eventually be seen for what they are, and punished. Timothy, like other believers, should steer clear of such people.

Chapter 3 presents two sections with very different themes. In the first, Paul describes in detail the sins associated with apostasy: the abandonment of truth. Echoing the themes of prior chapters, Paul instructs Timothy to avoid not only these sins, but the people who participate in them. In the second section, Paul draws a contrast between these false teachers and his own example, as well as the faithful conduct of Timothy. Paul's capstone advice against false teaching and apostasy is the written word of God: the most powerful resource for any Christian leader.

In verse 2, Paul began to list some of the evil traits associated with the "last days"—the era of the church, which continues through today. Paul continues here by adding six additional traits to the eight already noted.

First, evil people will be "heartless," from the Greek astorgoi. This term is the combination of the negative a, meaning "not" or "against," with the root word storge. That Greek root word refers to a natural, affectionate love. Storge is typically summarized as "parental love." In this context, it not only means those who fail to show proper love to children. It also means those who are inhumane towards others.

Second, evil people will be "unappeasable," from the Greek word aspondoi. This means those who refuse to hold to agreements, who cannot be convinced to agree on anything. Some translations use the word "irreconcilable."

Third, these wicked people will be "slanderous." This Greek term is diaboloi, which means one who lies, slanders, or makes false accusations. This is the root of English words such as diabolic. From a Christian standpoint, this is one of the titles of Satan: "The Devil," meaning the one who lies and slanders others. A hallmark of this fallen world is the tendency to tear down others with gossip, lies, and hateful speech.

Fourth, these evil people will be "without self-control." Self-control is part of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23). The presence of self-control is mentioned frequently by Paul as an important trait in the life of a Christian (1 Corinthians 7:5, 9; 9:25; Galatians 5:23; 1 Timothy 2:9, 15; 2 Timothy 1:7). Self-control implies a person who is not selfish or arrogant, as mentioned in verse 2.

Fifth, evil people will be "brutal," from the Greek word anēmeroi. This most literally means "savage or untamed." Paul's use of it here might refer to physical violence, but it certainly implies a wild and un-controlled attitude.

Sixth, Paul says that evil people will be known for a hatred for godly things. Interestingly, Paul uses the Greek word aphilagathoi, which suggests a very personal aspect to this hate. In other words, these evil people do not merely despise "goodness," they specifically dislike "good people." This certainly agrees with Jesus' warning to the disciples: those who love God will be hated by the world (John 15:18–21).

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The very fact that Paul urges us to dress ourselves with these virtues signifies that none of us has "arrived" spiritually. All of us are flawed, deficient, and weak in some respects. As we yield and develop these virtues, we must be forbearing and forgiving toward our brothers on the basis of Christ's example of forbearance and mercy toward us. The enabling power of God's Spirit is already within us, or this exhortation would be in vain.

It can be done if we will choose to humble ourselves and act when we become aware of the need of a brother or of the church itself. God calls upon us here not merely to act but to do it with affection. In all cases, we must let our heart dictate to our hand, to let our most tender feelings encounter the miseries of those in distress, just as Christ did in descending to clothe Himself in clay. We need to let our feelings be at hand and readily touched that we might open our hands wide in help.

This world has hardened us. We have seen so much arrogance and cruelty that God warns that at the end people will be "without natural affection" (II Timothy 3:3, KJV). We are this end-time generation, and we must go a long way even to start to be like Christ in kindness. But we can do it! Perhaps we can liken beginning to be like this to learning to swim by just "jumping in." Kindness is something that we must develop, and we can do it because God has already enabled us by His Spirit. This fruit is especially sweet tasting and a major factor in producing unity.

Never forget God's character, His example, and this promise He has given to us in Isaiah 54:10: "'For the mountains shall depart and the hills be removed, but My kindness shall not depart from you, nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,' says the Lord, who has mercy on you."